So I’ve got the my new blog set up and have launched it today. I am excited about the new writing opportunity of sharing my personal experiences with readers about what life is like before, during, and after a divorce. I’ll be covering a myriad of topics in the future.
While this site will primarily be focused on how to cope with separation and divorce, and how to thrive, I’ll often include other topics about building a new life that will be much better than your previous one. There are certain things one can do to make this a reality. I’ve learned the hard way, and made more than a few mistakes along the way, but it is my hope that my mistakes will become your benefit.
Let’s face it: for most people involved in a separation or divorce, life can become cumbersome. You’ll be facing some tough decisions that will either adversely or positively affect your life. Not only will you have to leave emotions out of a lot of these decisions, but you’ll have to be wise, both legally and financially. It’s almost always never easy.
I didn’t read a ton of blogs when I first went through my separation. I relied mostly on friends and family, which were both great. But their help was limited. In the end, everyone has to stand alone when it comes down to reality. You can always receive great advice, especially from people that have been through your situation. And I had more than a few. I even had a small bit of financial help which I was immensely grateful for. But you’re the one that has to ultimately live with your current situation. Later, as I surfed the internet reading through different blogs that gave advice about divorce, I did find some great sites that gave a ton of information that I used, especially legally and financially. I was appreciative and learned a lot. But not many of them quite resonated with me on a personal-emotional level. A lot of it was generic and I wanted more. Don’t get me wrong. Some of them were very genuine and made my day better. But everyone looks for that unique perspective that might match their own. And that’s another reason I am starting, Life with Divorce. I wanted something a little more personal than what a lot of blogs offer. I understand the reasoning for not getting too personal. An ex can always come back and sue for defaming their reputation. Of course I would never stoop to that level, and my ex can rest assured that she is safe from personal details. I’ll only go into what anyone could easily find out through public record, and then make correct assumptions from there. But I want to provide something that people out there like you can really connect with on a personal level and know that you’re not alone, even if that is only a small percent of the population. But I feel that that percent really isn’t that small.
Statics as of 2017 state that more than 50% of married couples will now end in divorce. That’s going to affect millions of lives in the United States alone. Now matter how many people I end up reaching, I have an opportunity to help more than a few. And that will make me more than content.
I have chosen a Genesis framework with the Wintersong Pro child theme because it is both elegant and simple. I don’t want a lot of pictures, fluff, or sidebar for people to get caught up with. This site is mostly about the writing. I will run ads, on this site,even from day one, but only because I would like the basic maintenance and upkeep of this blog to be paid for. As a teacher I don’t make a ton of money, although I do well enough to get by. I am good at making a dollar stretch and have planned financially for my future with very little. Yes, the separation cut my income in half and I lost much and had to start over, but I am confident I will gain back what I lost and then some. Most blogs that run ads don’t even make enough to cover yearly upkeep and maintenance fees, but my spiritual website has been successful enough to do this (with some extra) and I am confident this one will too. If the site ever gets big enough to make a second income, I’ll be grateful for that, but as of the start of this blog, that’s not what I am concerned about.
When I learned how to finally start successfully navigating my separation, I became an even bigger optimist than I was before. I am a firm believer in the fact that hardship builds both character and new opportunities when we allow it. This takes some mental and emotional conditioning, but when you have the right attitude, it is more than likely. So I just as I look forward to my journey with life after divorce, I hope that you will too.