I know a girl (we’ll call her Christy) who’s dating someone, but he’s still hung up on someone else. She knows this, but has decided she likes him so much that she’s willing to play the waiting game. I’ve never met the guy but she assures me he has a good career, he’s stable overall, and he’s a good person. And he tells her he’s really into her. The dilemma? He has admitted that he’s still struggling over feelings for his ex. [Read more…]
If you are separated or divorced with kids, you and the ex are going to disagree at some point about how to raise them. Maybe you want them in bed by 8:30 on school nights, but your ex might allow them to stay up until 10:30. Or perhaps you feel your six-year old son is not mature enough to play with a BB gun, but the ex buys him one anyway. Then there are the really big issues. [Read more…]
Some will say that you can never completely get over your ex-wife or husband. Do I agree? Partially. I believe it’s better to say that you can never forget. But get past them? Yes. Learn to thrive? Absolutely. It’s not as hard as it seems, even though you may be currently feeling utterly cheated in life. [Read more…]
When should you start dating again after a separation or divorce? Some argue that this varies from person to person. I’ll admit…It may vary for those who have experienced extreme emotional trauma, but most of us should begin dating fairly quickly. I believe this goes for both genders.
That probably ignores 95% of relationship counseling advice. You may have heard that it’s best not to date after a long-term marriage or relationship for at least a year. Some even recommend two years. The three main reasons go something like this: [Read more…]
How do you feel about your separation or divorce? Are you only able to focus on the negativity? I completely understand if that’s where you are. It took me some time to be able to see my separation as a positive experience. At first I felt betrayed. And a lot of anger. But now things are better than good. It just took a change in my perspective. Since the divorce I have found that life is all about perspective. Separation and divorce often feels like great loss, and sometimes it is, at least initially. But a simple change in perspective can turn the most seemingly negative situation into something positive. [Read more…]